When my wife and I met, she had just gotten out of a 10-year relationship with an abusive person.
The guy drank a lot and abused her and her three-year-old daughter.
She didn’t want to go back to an abusive or domestic violence situation. I never expected to find myself in a long-term relationship with a woman with a child, but that is exactly what happened. We fell in love right away and started seeing each other almost every single day. When my girlfriend mentioned her dislike for people that smoke marijuana, I did not mention the fact that I use recreational marijuana. It was still early in our relationship and I figured there would be a better time to bring it up. Things got serious very quickly and now it feels like I am lying and hiding my recreational marijuana use. I get high at work with my friends and I get high before I come home. Marijuana does not alter my behavior in any way, because I have been smoking for such a long time. My girlfriend does not know that I have been smoking, but I feel like I should tell her. It’s never a good idea to start a relationship off with a lie. Unfortunately, I got stuck in this lie and I don’t know how to make things right. At this point, I am worried that she is not going to want to continue dating me if she finds out, and that is just one more reason for me to continue hiding it from her.